My apartment has some plumbing issues: There's a leak in the kitchen sink. The hot water in the bathroom sink comes out of the tap at slightly greater force than a trickle. The bathroom sink drain is bordering on becoming clogged. The toilet sometimes runs and should be grouted to the floor.
I know these are problems. And I haven't gotten them fixed for a number of, probably not very good, reasons. Namely, time and money combined with the effort of locating/contacting a decent plumber.
Y has taken it upon himself to start nagging me about it. Daily. On the phone. On IM. When we're cuddling after sex. It is driving me crazy. And stressing me out. "When are you going to call a plumber?"
"I don't know."
He nags. I refuse to give in.
I don't respond well to nagging. It makes me dig in my heels. I feel like if I give in to his nagging, it only means that the next time there will be more nagging. I know it's something that I need to do, but I want to do it in my own time and in my own way. I don't want to be hounded and harassed and hassled and harangued.
What I need now is a way to shut down the nagging without capitulation. Maybe something to say whenever the nagging starts like "I understand you are concerned, but I'm not going to talk about it anymore with you?"
Seems a little harsh, no?